“How can I honestly express myself when I fear that others will
think less of me? How can I be true to my heart when I fear the
reactions of the person that I would like to be able to be
truthful to?
During the various seasons as we are meeting with many people
familiar and unfamiliar this is a perfect time to be conscious
of a new way of dealing with old situations that no longer
serve a purpose.
There is no purpose in creating fear or anger within yourself
or in others. There is no purpose in bringing your heart to a
space where joy and light fade into the mundane disappointments
and disillusionments that are inevitable when we go down a
well-trodden path that leads to nowhere.
There is a purpose though to practice what it means to be free
and conscious. The purpose being that we give less of who we
are to the old and move forward to a space that is uniquely in
this moment by focusing on the joy and freedom of what it means
to be conscious. Conscious of the parts of yourself that make
you uniquely human and more. Conscious of the parts of yourself
that celebrate this moment in a completely free way.
We need to be clear that the burden of the old no longer needs
to be our paradigm but rather the birth of the new light that
is forever inside of our hearts. This will make everyone joyous
and change the structure of the situation that is causing the
sense of confrontation.
In a practical sense, once this thought is brought into the
light of your consciousness there are a few steps that are easy
to practice to make this a reality in all the different
situations. The situations that as human beings we find
ourselves in and are challenged to make visible our unique
truth in each moment.
Some people do not like confrontation. Some people do not like
it when people confront them or when there is a situation which
requires a confrontation as the best way to proceed. Some
people prefer to run away from the issues requiring
confrontation.
Instead of looking at confrontation as an issue that will cause
pain and thus continue to practice the method of avoiding the
issue, why not utilise your heartfelt communication in a new
way.
Take a deep breath. Relax all the muscles in the body and focus
on the love and consciousness that comes from the space of
being in this moment. Choose this harmonious consciousness
rather than getting caught up in the idea of pain. The pain is
simply based on belief systems from the past and ideas of
possible painful futures rather than the unique presence of
this actual moment.
Joyous communication is the way.
With every aspect of your communication, rather than bring in
the pain of the past or the fear of the future, express the joy
of what it means to be able to move through this wonderful
lesson to a space that brings you closer to the joy of being in
deep communication with another wonderful human being.
Instead of pretending nothing is wrong or escaping into your
old pattern and belief systems, which often blows things out of
proportion as your pain is projected onto the pain that you
feel this communication is causing, there are some easy steps
you can take to transcend rather than try to resolve the
issue.
The first step is to completely come into your center and not
to utter any words until you have taken a few deep breaths and
calmed your body into a normal, relaxed state. Take a few
moments to analyse what it is that your body is actually
feeling in this moment. Especially the shoulders, the jaws, the
thighs, the mouth. If they are not relaxed, take a few more
moments to consciously feel that these parts of your body are
flowing with the warm sensation of love.
The next step is to observe what the communication is really
about. Most of us get caught up in the feelings that are
triggered by a communication and hence communicate from the
feelings that are triggered rather than the actual
communication that may help transcend the block. This is called
projection and hence what we are asking the people we are
communicating with is for them to react to our projection. Then
we can continue a vicious circle of understanding our pain
rather than finding freedom and consciousness in the situation
that truly requires this.
When you continue the process of joyous communication you are
more easily able to evaluate clearly what is going on, what is
happening, and hence comprehend what is actually affecting the
behaviours and conditions creating the situation that is not
bringing you joy.
It is important to differentiate the pain from the past or from
the future or from the expectations of the future and remain an
observer. This means dropping criticism, judgement, subtle
provocations and sarcasms, blaming, causing pain or whatever
mechanisms whereby you, the observer, becomes the pain.
When you are in this free space of observation notice how you
feel. Notice the feeling that is free from projection and is
simply discerning the situation from a conscious space.
Discernment does not come from feeling but rather from
compassion and love that are embracing and expansive no matter
what the situation is.
From this space we can create thinking that becomes more
intelligent and is more able to express our deeper
communications which always contain love, compassion, joy and
kindness.
Connect with this depth of consciousness in your communication
and trust. Deeply understand that all your needs will be met
from this space in relation to what is happening and how you
are feeling.
Express what you want from this depth rather than what you
don't want. Affirm in a positive way that what you want is a
reality that you trust and know to be possible rather than
affirming the blocks and projections in yourself or in other
people that confrontational communication thrives on.
Make sure that your affirmations are not demands either crude
or subtle. Make sure that you do not create a sense of guilt,
fear, shame, insecurity but rather that your affirmations
create a space of open embracement that allow for yourself and
others to feel the joy of this communication.
Make sure that your communication gives rather than takes.
Giving only comes from a space of abundance and consciousness.
Part of giving is being able to listen. Giving yourself the
gift of listening is giving yourself opportunities that only
come when we are able to hear the wisdom not only in ourselves
but in all that is around helping us to grow into this sense of
oneness and joy.
What a wonderful reality to affirm in all our communications so
that every aspect of life becomes more real, more human and
more full of compassion for ourselves and all living
beings.”
Tony Samara
